It is said we remember moments in our lives, we do not rem
ember days or weeks or years.
Every time I hear the word 'leadership', I'm taken back to the stuffy 10th grade classroom I was sitting in and see, once again, my teacher's face as he approached my desk and handed me some forms so many years ago.
He announced that I had been chosen from amongst all 10th grade students in my high school, to attend the Ontario Camp Leadership Centre at Bark Lake in the Haliburton Highlands of Ontario.
I sat in shock as I took the package from him and asked him what this meant.
He told me that it had been determined that I had the skills to be a leader and had been chosen by all of the teachers to attend Bark Lake Leadership Camp for a few weeks in the upcoming summer to learn leadership skills. It was completely paid for by the government of Ontario, so there would be no cost to my parents, and the only stipulation was that after taking the 3 week course, I was to return home and use my newfound knowledge to teach and guide others.
I was honoured, and yet at the same time, I was uncertain if I had the ability to do what was being asked of me.
I expressed my concerns to my teacher and he said to give it some thought and talk it over with my parents.
If I decided not to go, they would choose the next student on the list.
That evening I showed my parents the package and, after careful discussion, the decision was made that I was being called to do this, and therefore I should accept the responsibility and attend.
From that day onward, the word 'leadership', never meant the same to me again.
It was now my responsibility to be a leader, as I had been chosen.
It's a big responsibility to place the title, 'leader' on someone, and once someone accepts that they are considered a leader, their lives are completely changed .
Mary Parker Follett, a 1920's business guru, summarized a leader in this way, "The person who influences me most is not he who does great deeds, but he who makes me feel I can do great deeds."
In discussing leadership, it comes back to this time and time again. We lead by empowering others, by bringing them a sense of independence and competency, by instilling self-confidence in others and by showing them 'the way'.
John Quincy Adams said "If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader."
We do not lead by tearing others down in the hopes of getting ahead of them or by making an example of their shortcomings. We lead by building others up and pointing out their achievements to the world.
It is the same here on Active Rain. It is the responsibility of those amongst us who consider themselves to be leaders, to not write blogs pointing out where others have fallen down, or what others are doing wrong or how they should be blogging or running their business; rather it is the responsibility of the leaders amongst us to lead by writing positive posts that point out what other bloggers are doing that is successful and noticeable.
It is also the responsibility of the leaders in Active Rain and in the business world to lead by 'doing' and by 'sharing' the knowledge that each has.
One doesn't become a leader by trying to get ahead of others, one becomes a leader by walking beside others and helping to show the way.
- Being a friend to those around you, and giving credit to those who've helped or encouraged you, shows humbleness and humanity.
A great leader must show that he/she is of the people and not 'above' the people. By being 'of the people', you will be welcomed amongst others and not shunned at the gate.
- Admitting failure and not being afraid to take chances in charting un-mapped territory, shows you do not value yourself above your fellow man and are willing to do all the jobs of the organization or group, because, you are 'amongst the people', not above them.
Gandhi was known to do menial jobs such as cleaning the washroom, in the camps he was staying in. No man is better than any other and great leaders know and understand this.
When you think of yourself as 'better', you alienate those around you. Vuln
erability has amazing power in it.
- Consider not only your own personal integrity at all times, but also consider how 'ethical' you are.
Integrity is speaking the truth even when it will not benefit you.
Each human has within themselves, a built in 'truth detector' called an 'intuition' or 'instinct'. Not all humans pay attention to this truth detector, and those who wish to seek unjust power over others have learned ways to program the minds of those they wish to control by side-skirting this 'trust detector'.
It is known, however, that those with integrity establish trust by speaking the truth.
Out of integrity comes 'ethics' or 'doing the right thing'. People will gratefully and freely look up to you if you are not only a person of integrity, but also a person of high 'ethics'.
Ethics involves taking into consideration the effects on others of one's own actions, and seeking 'first to understand' others, before acting.
- Have a game plan for your life, as well as for your business.
People respect, admire and learn from those who exhibit organizational skills and the determination to see their goals through.
Those who are willing to share with others their goal making and attaining strategies, and help others to determine and achieve their own goals, show quiet and non-competitive leadership skills that others feel safe to be around.
- Show that you are open to the ideas of others and that even though you may not want to incorporate their ideas into your own life, you will not tear their idea down or make it lesser than it is.
Leaders realize and accept that all people have gifts within themselves and, if a person trusts you enough to show a part of their gift to you, respect and encourage that gift in them.
By so doing, you are empowering a person to utilize and trust more of their own internal gifts and it is in this way that communities, nations and the world move forward in a positive fashion.

In the same way, look for something in each person you meet that you sincerely 'like' about that person.
By focusing on that quality, you will find yourself liking the person and they in turn, will sense your approval and reveal their innate beauty to you.
Innate beauty is not external, it is an internal part of the universe that is within each person and is the centre of their power.
When you are a catalyst for the revelation of this internal beauty within others, you are helping not only that person, but all people with whom that person comes into contact with from that point onwards.
There is great power in loving others.
- Be very cautious of negativity, no matter where you might find it.
Negativity is a powerful force as it activates centres of our brains that
disempower and discourage us. It is important to surround yourself with positive people and environments, and also to be your own censor when it comes to what things you read, watch or listen to.
There is a great deal of negativity that exists in order to embroil you in confusion, and therefore waste your valuable time and energy.
If a negative person wishes to disempower or argue with you, quietly thank them for their time, and excuse yourself from their presence. Their negativity is not about you, it is about them and you will help them far more by leading away towards peace and positivism, then by allowing yourself to be engaged in an argument with them.
- Seek change and innovation in all you do.
We grow forward by experimentation and learning from our failures. I heard a saying the other day and it's engrained in my psyche 'Winners are those who make things happen, losers are those who let things happen.'~Phil Erramehe, Ph.D.
If you are a person of integrity, ethics, empathy, knowledge and leadership skills, is it not imperative that you be in the former category and make things happen?
All of the gifts of integrity and knowledge and skill in the world mean nothing if one does not act and share these gifts with the world.
When those around you see you carrying out actions with integrity, ethics and compassion, they will feel comfortable around you and look up to you.
You will attract those who you are meant to lead, just as you are attracted to those who are meant to lead you.
On every path in life, sometimes you will be a leader, sometimes others will lead you. The most important consideration at all times is to trust and follow the leader that lays within your core.
By listening to that 'core leader', you will know when to lead and when to follow, and at the same time will be drawn to, or draw to you, those who are meant to lead or follow you.
In our business capacity, we are not only expected to be leaders, we are leaders, and others are drawn to us because of our leadership qualities.
What kind of leader are you?
©2008JoSmith
Jo-Anne Smith, the author of this article, is a REALTOR® with Royal Lepage Proalliance Realty, Brokerage, in Belleville, Ontario and welcomes your real estate inquiries. To contact her, visit www.QuinteRegionRealEstate.com |
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Jo-Anne Smith, the author of this article, is a REALTOR® with Your Choice Realty , Mississauga, Ontario and welcomes your real estate inquiries. To contact her, visit www.oakville-burlingtonhomes.com
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